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Archive for February, 2008

A Place To Call Home

Friday, February 29th, 2008

  I love my house, I really do. (I also love my town. I want to do a photo walk of its main drag one day, because it’s such an interesting street. Bums! Hippies! Surfers! And I would NOT have it any other way.)   But my main point for now: my house is great. […]

I Love This Poem

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Disillusionment Of Ten O’Clock   The houses are haunted By white night-gowns. None are green, Or purple with green rings, Or green with yellow rings, Or yellow with blue rings. None of them are strange, With socks of lace And beaded ceintures. People are not going To dream of baboons and periwinkles. Only, here and […]

Rarty Mix. Or, Some of the Best Kid’s Songs Out There

Thursday, February 28th, 2008

  For Toot’s recent birthday, I gave out mix CDs of some of her favorite songs. They’re her favorites because I told her they were, but she does seem to like them on her own, too. Which is a plus.   I’m not crafty. I’ve said it before, but need to say it again, because […]

JW Tumbles is Happening

Thursday, February 28th, 2008

  A few weeks ago, we celebrated Toots’ birthday party at our local JW Tumbles (Pt. Loma).   It made me wonder why I ever do stuff for birthday parties. Things like planning and preparing and cooking and assembling and shopping. I just didn’t need to with JW Tumbles and let me say, the opportunity […]

What is the Word? Oh Yeah. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Wednesday, February 27th, 2008

  Today did not go down easy.   My exposed nerves pulsated and twitched and despite all, someone kept scraping them with a callous remover. Those are the someones above.   Today was the opposite of a sensory deprivation tank. Rather, it was an IMAX theater of scrambling kids falling off beds, crawling onto my […]

On the Topic of Eating Well

Wednesday, February 27th, 2008

Toots: What’s for lunch?   Me: (thinking fast on my feet) Uh, something good.   Toots: And healthy?   (Oh, my sweet little pupil!)   Me: Yes. Good AND healthy.   Toots: How about pepperoni salad?  


Wednesday, February 27th, 2008

  My haiku won in the humor category over at My Mommys Place. It’s a great site. Their haiku contest is fun. Maybe they’ll have another one someday. But better you don’t enter. I’ll just win again and then you’ll feel real bad. Don’t do that to yourself. You’ve got enough to worry about.   […]

I Knew Better

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

…than to open the e-mail titled “With Tremendous Force and Volume.”

Eating Well

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

I’m sorry. I’m using this photo again. It’s from about 4 years ago, so maybe you will mistake my youthful radiance for health.   In July of last year, I decided to eat better. And because I can’t do anything in moderation, my eating better looked like this: no white sugar, no white flour, no […]

The Anticipation Must Hurt Something Awful

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

There’s a new Momma Love “review” up.   Cuz I know you (friend in Tulsa) were waiting.  


Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

So in college, my friends and I said “flocking,” instead of the other word.   Everything became, “she’s so flocking annoying,” and “what the flock?!?,” and “flock you!”   Then Halloween came and we (there were at least 7 of us) dressed up as a flock of cows. We wore black garbage bags and taped […]

Shoo, Flu

Monday, February 25th, 2008

  I am bonkers for this stuff. I believe that I associate the smell of it with childhood, which brings good tidings. It’s got a beautiful eucalyptus smell that reminds me of the Vick’s VapoRub my dad used to use on us kids. For everything. Seriously. Loose tooth? Vicks. First period? Vicks. Herpes Simplex A? […]

Thank God The Writers Are Back

Monday, February 25th, 2008

  Did you see this on SNL Saturday night?   Please note that the video has adult content! And as such is very adulty in nature. No dirty stuff, just grown-up, possibly offensive, but hilarious, humor. Again! You may be offended by this! But only if you’ve never had a period.   Now if you’ll […]

Sunday’s Playlist: I Wish I Were Cool

Monday, February 25th, 2008

This one is completely dominated by the artist we heard play last night.   And how about this? Please list in an e-mail or in comments or in your blog (just leave me the link) three songs you can’t live without (for now). It can be songs you’ve just discovered, or songs you’ve loved long […]

Info Slurp

Sunday, February 24th, 2008

Is there a software or technology out there which allows people in your general vicinity to see what you are doing/writing on your computer? Like a Google Earth but with computers? Where people can zone in on you and see your computer screen on theirs?   I hope not.  


Sunday, February 24th, 2008

I have this annoying habit, one I didn’t know what to call before, although I knew it needed a name, a slogan, a tagline. Something catchy and inspiring.   Finally, a few months ago a friend called it “Going Geico™,” and nothing could more perfectly sum it up.   So what I do is I […]

The Routine

Saturday, February 23rd, 2008

Today we’re off to a Peter Pan-themed birthday party, where Toots and Booger will wear Sleeping Beauty costumes. Those Disney characters, they’re all friends, right?   After that, it’s a quick ride home, a nap send-off and a quick getaway to a house concert our friends are hosting. Chris Trapper will be there, playing the […]

He Ain’t Heavy (But Yes He Is)

Friday, February 22nd, 2008

Thanks to my brother for this link. It’s a poem from the New Yorker. Here’s a poem my brother wrote. I like it too.   p.s. To see my bro’s poem, go to this link, click on Scribble, then on the photo with the red-shaded lamp. You’ll be glad you did.

In The Spaces

Friday, February 22nd, 2008

My husband’s yelling woke me up. Then I heard the home security alarm.   I hurled myself out of bed and looked at our alarm system flashing red, and wanted to cover my ears to shield against the piercing beep.   But there was the yelling. And the scrambling. And oh my God, is someone […]

An Update

Thursday, February 21st, 2008

As you can tell from my recent posts, I’m currently in PMS Week #3.   Also, in Week #1.   Don’t ask for clarification. I’ll get all Week #2 on your ass.  

Days Gone By

Thursday, February 21st, 2008

As I fastened my daughter in her car seat this morning, I glimpsed a woman in the car next to mine, hunched over the steering wheel, sobbing.   My heart connected with hers in that moment and I so wanted to knock on the window and ask if she was all right.   But I […]

From Whence I Came

Wednesday, February 20th, 2008

I took her Cadillac the day we spread her ashes. It was a long drive from San Diego to Bodega Bay, but it gave me time to think, which I did, sometimes reluctantly. And as freeways gave way to greened two-lane roads, I lulled myself into thinking everything would be OK. Of course, it never […]

It’s Coming

Wednesday, February 20th, 2008

My pancake this morning. I know it’s blurry and amorphous. Why don’t you just shut up?   This morning I made my oat pancake with 75% expired ingredients. This can only mean one thing: I’m PMSing.   Since I suffer from anxiety, it makes sense that I also get PMS. I believe they’re branches of […]

Because It Used To Be All About Me

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

My daughter turned four this weekend and for kicks, I looked back at my other blog, the one I shall not name, for posts I wrote while I was pregnant with her.   And I found one. But instead of being about her, it was about me — sick and in the throes of early […]

Happy Slip

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

Yes, indeed.

Really? The Sex and the City Guy?

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

Have you read the Memory of Running? You should. Then, please tell me who the author played in Sex and the City. It wasn’t the senator, right?

Learning to Forgive Update #3

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

This is part 3 from my Road to Oprah series. (I was inspired by my dream last night).   This is part 1. And part 2.   I’ve been avoiding this.   There’s way more to work through than I originally thought. Because I started with my mom. And that’s the hardest person to forgive. […]

Ask. And You Shall Receive.

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

Straight from my dream brain to you.   I really wanted to blog last night. But I drew a blank, so I began to talk about mucous again, which happens when I’m nervous.   I fortunately threw that post to the curb and took to a fitful sleep.   The Universe must have taken pity […]

Hhhhaiku! God Bless You.

Monday, February 18th, 2008

  Despite the above, I don’t think you should vote for me.   Vote for the haikus you like best.   Because I’m OK with not being the best.   Although it’s a lot of fun when I am.   You know, I had a rough childhood. Always feeling like second best. Never really being […]

5 3 Things I Can Do Now to Be a Better Mom

Sunday, February 17th, 2008

Oh, I talk a good game. In conversations with friends, teachers, and family, I focus on the wholesome, positive things I do as a mom, but the truth is, I can do better.   This isn’t a putdown. It’s the truth.   I know I’m not doing my best. As my daughter told me the […]

Dora’s World Adventure CD

Sunday, February 17th, 2008

  I don’t know, I kind of have a licensed character aversion. My brother has it, too, and refuses to dress his son in clothes with any trace of Bob the Builder or Thomas, preferring instead those drab, uniformy-looking kid’s clothes you get when you shop in Asia.   Not that there’s anything wrong with […]

Another Sunday’s Playlist

Sunday, February 17th, 2008

Love Love Love/Tristan Prettyman Spanish Stroll/Mink De Ville Big Girl (You Are Beautiful)/MIKA Oh! (What a Glorious Thing)/Akira the Don When I Write the Book/Rockpile I Believe In Love/Indigo Girls Run/Indigo Girls Last Request/Paolo Nutini California Grace/Long Beach Shortbus I Saw/Matt Nathanson   And that’s the way I like it.  

End of An Era

Saturday, February 16th, 2008

My daughter turned 4 today and overnight things changed.   It’s funny how you say something to your kid, something unthinking, something you don’t even remember saying, and they take it and run with it, refer to it often and make it their mantra.   As a passing comment yesterday, I said, “Now that you’re […]

The Monkey On My Back Dances, Continued

Friday, February 15th, 2008

Part 1 of my gripping “I Suffer From Anxiety” series. And Part II.   So in my endeavor to better understand my anxiety and hopefully find ways to cope with it, I recently visited a kinesthesiologist. I’d heard great things about this guy from a vegan/Zen/meditative/very non-anxious friend of The Rocks’ who’d been going to […]

Haiku Fridays

Friday, February 15th, 2008

Not really, but that wouldn’t that be cool: every Friday designated “Haiku Day?” And the banks would be closed and the post office and schools and daycare and what am I, crazy?   In related news, I’m entering a haiku contest held over at My Mommy’s Place and am posting my submissions here. There’s all […]

Crapfty Mom

Thursday, February 14th, 2008

I hate being a pussy mom.   I want to be the rocker mom who grooves to the beat of her own drum, not caring what people think, no, just experiencing that joie de vivre and living, man, just living! You know?   No? Oh man, why you gotta be like that?   Yesterday, my […]

Dinner, Anyone? No? I Don’t Blame You.

Thursday, February 14th, 2008

These days, I make exactly three things for dinner: pasta, salad, nothing.   There’ll be weeks where I motivate to try something new, but about a month ago, my mind suddenly sprang a dinner recipe leak.   It’s as if I never knew how to make anything. Kind of like Freaky Friday where I changed […]

For My Bubby

Thursday, February 14th, 2008

Steady hands, honest gazer I crave to etch words in your marble   Love to make my mark where it shall remain and if it peaks dips circles   You’ll touch the infinite cast edges   And when I turn away And when I shut it out And when I wretch — to what?   […]


Wednesday, February 13th, 2008

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I recently looked back through all the correspondence I’d sent my husband over the past 10 years. And instead of feeling inspired, or invigorated, I took a horrifying walk down memory lane, where I realized that my husband is one lucky brave man.   I offer for evidence one particular […]

Like a Puppet

Wednesday, February 13th, 2008

  I disappoint myself when these types of videos get to me. I know the message is worthwhile, I do. But it’s that they orchestrate the music, the photos, the words, to intentionally make you cry. And then it becomes about the making-you-cry, and not about the making-you-think. (The fact that I’m bothered by that […]


Wednesday, February 13th, 2008

This seemed manageable.   Then, I walked into this.   This.   And finally, this.   I’m trying to take this all in stride. Usually, I spot clean throughout the day, then dive into emergency surgery cleaning late in the afternoon. I’ve been trying to pace myself, because it feels like all I do is […]

A Day Late

Tuesday, February 12th, 2008

Well, now that the writer’s strike is pretty much over, I find this hilarious video. Maybe not as relevant, still as funny.

Under $30!

Tuesday, February 12th, 2008

  Can you see this OK? I simply must take fashion photography to better capture the kick assedness of my thrift store finds. But meanwhile, let me break it down for you: we’ve got one 100% silk, Banana Republic, peacock green, visually arresting top, paired with dress khakis sporting cream, black and tan pinstripes, topped […]

Goodwill Hunting

Tuesday, February 12th, 2008

  Can I just tell you how many kick ass things I’ve found here? A brand new Lilly Pulitzer jacket for my one-year-old ($2), Gymboree dresses ($3.99), Banana Republic totally awesome jacket ($8.99), the best purse in the universe ($9.99). And more!   Usually, I don’t buy unless the item is new or drycleaned (and […]

5 Ways I Encourage Creativity in My Kids

Monday, February 11th, 2008

Creativity is a value in my home. I foster, nurture, and develop the creative urge in my children every day (quite possibly to ward off any chance that they will languish uncreatively in soulless jobs as I many people I know have done.)   I firmly believe that we are all creative. I also believe […]

Sunday’s Playlist

Sunday, February 10th, 2008

If my emotions were mapped today, this would be the topography.   Darlin’ Do Not Fear/Brett Dennen Circle/Edie Brickell & The New Bohemians Kindly Unspoken/Kate Voegele In My Own Mind/Lyle Lovett Myriad Harbour/The New Pornographers Wraith Pinned to the Mist and Other Games/Of Montreal Diamonds On the Soles of Her Shoes/Paul Simon Silver Lining/Rilo Kiley […]


Sunday, February 10th, 2008

electric fingers, worn by silver move me forward, will I hear a whisper   spent as light in near dawn, spirals she limps, then settles   sits in blonde wood acclimated to cold peeks through the porthole, spider glass   pipes of light I would collect and – forget, unbidden in deep pockets   padded, […]

People Peek: Angel Among Us

Saturday, February 9th, 2008

This is “Angel.” He’s 55 years old. Or, 85. He wanted me to guess.   Throughout his adult life, which either measured about 30 years, or 60, (I’m still deciding), Angel was an insulation contractor, a cleaning business owner. a Hollywood actor, songwriter, entertainment agency CEO. and…whew! isn’t that enough?   Now, Angel works for […]

Activists, Or…?

Saturday, February 9th, 2008

I love the affection on Ray’s face here.   This is Ray (left) and Bill. I’ve seen them at my local coffee house going on two years now. Usually, they’re holding court at a table filled with other intelligent-looking, newspaper-reading, energetically-discussing locals. In my mind, I imagined Ray, Bill and their friends to be local […]

Park and Slide

Friday, February 8th, 2008

Every Friday, I join my Moms’ Meetup group at Point Loma’s Liberty Station park. This is a new and well-kept park tucked behind a large grassy area, and south of the bay (although it could be north, east or west? I’m horrible at directions, I just like how it sounds when I pretend to know). […]

Thank You, God

Thursday, February 7th, 2008

As I was finishing up the last post, Alexa came up to me. “I’m stunked,” she said. Thinking she meant “stumped,” I corrected her. “No, stunked,” she insisted. “It’s a Spanish word I made up for tired.”   That kid’s perfect.  

Thursday’s Test

Thursday, February 7th, 2008

Sunlight makes it through the thickest of branches.   Thursday didn’t come easy. Alexa’s down with a sinus infection and the rest of us are battling runny noses and general crankiness. And here I am: squirreled away in a dark corner of the kitchen to write a few lines. I started a poem, but thought: […]


Thursday, February 7th, 2008

  CORE When I walk here I feel OK Though ragged feet and bruised arms walk with me   Yeah you know I feel OK   Because I’m you without the evidence   No. Mosaic alley with its tattoos and broken melodies   is siren song   If we met face to face dungarees and […]

Hair Cut Short, The Prequel

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

Me now. But also then. Except for the crow’s feet and the nasolabial folds. Also? My laser eye vision wasn’t fully developed.   I have another blog. I’ve had it since June, 2001. I will not name it, because San Diego Momma is my new leaf. And I want to leave old stones unturned. (I […]

Fun with Words

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

This could be what puts me over my allotted Internet time…

Learning To Forgive, Update #2

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

AGENDA ITEM #1: FINALLY FORGIVE OLD SLIGHTS The set-up: I think I’ve moved on. But when the person’s name comes up or I’m reminded of how I’ve been hurt by anyone, in any way, at anytime, my anger flashes. What’s that Oprah says? Not forgiving someone is like taking poison and expecting the other person […]

Being A Better Person: Learning to Forgive Update #1

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

This is part 1.   AGENDA ITEM #1: FORGIVE (UPDATE)   Well, this first agenda item is going OK.   I spent a lot of my Road to Oprah time working primarily on forgiveness for my mom. I think that one’s the jim dandy and if I can forgive that, then the rest will come […]

Unicorn U.

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

This morning, my daughter tells me, “I really, really, really want to be a policeman.”   Thinking this sounds like something she’s really thought over, and not wanting to discourage her from the dream, I say, “Yeah?”   “Yes,” she answered resolutely. “Or a unicorn.”  

This Will Be A Serious One

Wednesday, February 6th, 2008

In September of 2007, my sister underwent an emergency c-section and subsequently gave birth to her beautiful daughter, Katelyn. Katelyn was born at just over 23 weeks, far far away from her due date of January 14, 2008. At birth, Katelyn weighed a tiny 1 lb., 3 ozs. and was barely 11 inches long.   […]

If Only a Picture Could Hack, Cough and Spit

Tuesday, February 5th, 2008

There’s no picture today because this post is about my neighbor, who is so close that if he had a telephoto lens, he could see what I was writing right now.   (In fact, he doesn’t even need a telephoto lens, he just needs eyes.)   In truth, I did try to snap a picture […]

Best Song Ever (For now)

Tuesday, February 5th, 2008

Answer by Sarah McLachlan is simply the most lovely song I’ve ever heard. Makes me cry every single time. I would play this at someone I love’s funeral. (I just blew the vibe, didn’t I?)

Living, and Dying

Tuesday, February 5th, 2008

TO ANGIE And this is the way you tell me you’ve grown tired and I say you’ve been tired all along   I tell you I won’t light your stone avenues, point at landmarks unseen, or the map still folded   I rise against your close-eyed sickness not by closing, but not stopping to look […]

Sweet Like Sugar

Tuesday, February 5th, 2008

SWEETIE PIE (written for my daughter, Alexa)   How do you make a sweetie pie Is it something you can bake?   Are there special things that go in it Do you frost it like a cake?   What are the ingredients That make it taste so sweet?   I imagine there’s no dirt or […]

Monkey On My Back: The Continuation

Monday, February 4th, 2008

I am strong, like a Powerpuff Girl. Except I’m not a kindergartner. But that’s open for debate.   Read Part I first here.   The anxiety: it’s overwhelmed me, made me laugh, ruined relationships, made friendships, and inspired my writing. It’s funny, really, that this is one of the first times that I’ve called it […]

Momma Love

Monday, February 4th, 2008

I have a lot of kid’s books. This one is my favorite of all time. It’s silly (as the title so helpfully suggests) but not in that annoying way, maybe like, say, Mr. Brown Can Moo, Can You? read 100 times at breakneck speed. I could read The Seven Silly Eaters again and again and […]

Super Pour Sunday

Monday, February 4th, 2008

These are the kinds of days I love. It’s the Chicagoan in me, I think. (Although I’m betting Chicagoan’s don’t like these kind of days.) I’ve always run melancholic, so these scenes give me the atmosphere to match my mood.   Super Pour, Part Deux   Super Pour, The Third Installment

Booger in More Ways Than One

Friday, February 1st, 2008