Taking a Chance



(Top): Aaryn, Me. (Bottom): Jenn, Cheri, Jamie, Kate.


So last year around this time, I didn’t know many people online. And because I tend to shun attention, I didn’t put myself out there. Too shy. Insecure. Nervous about my sensible shoes. But then, Cheri invited me to attend Kate’s house for the Bossy Road Trip and despite debilitating social anxiety (I ALWAYS worry I’ll be the only one at the lunch table), I went.


Now just a few days ago I told Cheri and Kate about my drive to Kate’s that night. I almost didn’t go because I felt like a dope. Plus, the shoes. But I talked myself into it and The Rock encouraged me, so I found myself heading off into the great white open. The whole ride to Kate’s, I talked to myself. Said “They will like you, don’t worry.” “Don’t talk with your mouth open.” “Whatever you do, don’t Go Geico™,” stuff like that. When I exhausted my affirmations, I blared some boot scootin’ music (Kelly Willis) to get me in a positive mood. Then, I almost turned around.


But I didn’t. I took some gigantic deep cleansing breaths (otherwise known as “had a panic attack”), parked my car, walked into Kate’s, and met some amazing women who’ve since become my pals.


All of this is to say that if you’re in San Diego, I do hope you will consider making it to Mel (another beloved friend I met through blogging) and my Mom’s Nite Out on Thursday, May 7. I want to get to know you. I am absolutely sure that there are more almost-pals-who-just-don’t-know-it-yet out there waiting for us.




Mel and “The Claw.”


So here are the details:




WHO: Any San Diego woman, be ye a blogger, twitterer, lurker, mom, female person.


WHERE: Buster’s Beach House & Longboard Bar at Seaport Village (Beach Loft Room)


WHEN: Thursday, May 7 from 6-9PM.


WHY: To promote solidarity, happiness, connection, friendship, mental, emotional and physical wellbeing of San Diego women, bloggers, twitterers, lurkers, moms, and female peoples.


WHAT: Giveaways, goody bags (no lame-ass plastic toys, promise), raffles. Items include signed copies of Kathy Ireland’s new book, Real Solutions for Busy Moms: Your Guide to Success and Sanity, an AVON basket, Kelli Parisian’s skincare, and more, more, more!


WHAT ELSE: Hosted light appetizers. No-host drinks (but Seaport Village was kind enough to give us our very own bartender!) Also, parking is free for three hours with Buster’s validation.


RSVP: At this Facebook page or by emailing sandiegomommaissofreakingcool@OHYEAH!.com debawriter (at) yahoo.com.


THE THANK YOUs: Thanks to Lizzie at Bailey Gardiner for setting us up with the location, and Buster’s Beach House, and Mel, for being an awesome partner in crime, and Seaport Village, and Charity at Virtue IMC, who is a wonderful help and in all ways amazing.


FINAL NOTE AND MORAL OF THE STORY: Please do come. Do not be shy. This is a casual mixer with some cool swag and we want to know you better. You might make some new friends who this time next year are old friends.


FINAL FINAL: If you have giveaway ideas or stuff to donate for the raffle, let us know! Raffle proceeds will be donated to the March of Dimes. Also, Kid Ventures in San Diego is collecting donations for March of Dimes in May in solidarity, which is very the awesome.


FINAL. NOW I REALLY MEAN IT: If you happen to live in the north coastal area, and prefer to stay closer to home, San Diego Bargain Mama is hosting a Mom’s Nite Out in Encinitas. That info is here.


Email me if you have any questions or need non-sensible shoe recommendations!


And I won’t throw you out of bed if you decide to tweet or post about our upcoming Girl’s Night Out, either.*


*Non-sequiturs like this are what make me particularly annoying endearing in person.


24 Responses to “Taking a Chance”

  1. I’m so glad you came that night. I’ll be there with bells on.

  2. Diane says:

    Man, I totally wish I lived in San Diego :(

  3. Blognut says:

    Well this is just depressing. :(

    I think you guys should rent a bus and drive to Chicago.

  4. Lisa Milton says:

    I like your pals. I wish I could wiggle my nose and appear there that night.

  5. I have such a huge crush on you (and your claw) right now. For anyone on the fence, I’m a really nice person. And I have great taste in shoes. Please come. Like Deb said, we’d love to get to know you!

    Blognut- I will be in Chicago for BlogHer, maybe we can meet?

  6. You were worried about your sensible shoes? I had on MOTORCYCLE boots and I drove a Lexus. I’m so glad you went. I like you. Like REALLY REALLY like you. Well, love. I REALLY REALLY LOVE YOU. Really.

  7. I mentioned the Lexus part because it doesn’t go with motorcycle boots. Just saying. Also, I don’t have the Lexus anymore. And it was sort of old. And smelled like barf. It smelled like barf because Laura got car sick in it ten times. (She never got sick once in the Jeep that I had before the Lexus. But in the Lexus? TEN times. I kept score. I did.) So, I really wasn’t trying to be all, “Oh, I drove a LEXUS. I’m cool.” Because I’m not cool. Clubs don’t even let me sit by fire pits. That’s how not cool I am.
    Do you still like me?

  8. stoneskin says:

    Based on one of Cheri’s recent suggestions to me in a comment I’m considering wearing a WWSDMD bracelet – What Would San Diego Momma Do?

  9. Sam says:

    I kinda love you, too, and I barely know you. :) Hope to be there at the shindig.

  10. Jennifer says:

    Sounds like a great night! If I had a license, car, money and spare time, I’d be there.

    Stardust- the movie was good. I was more interested in just knowing what it was about and seeing the various talent; Claire Danes, Robert Dinero… It’s a good story, the movie covered the basics, from what I could tell. When I find the book, I will be reading it. Like most of these tales there’s usually a lot better details and story line in the book.

  11. Da Goddess says:

    Deb if you know of any moms in the Poway area who’ll be attending (besides me), have them get in touch with me so we can carpool. (I’m totally earth-friendly with all my carpooling, you know.)

  12. Barrie Summy says:

    I am so bummed that I can’t make it. But I want you all to have such a marvelous time that it’ll happen again!

  13. You are such the super duo! I’m IN.

  14. Extra major bonus points for the use of ‘non-sequitur.’

  15. Danielle says:

    You all seem like a great group of gals. I wish you lived in Phoenix. Or really I wish I lived in San Diego. Have fun!!

  16. Crystal says:

    Danielle…we can have our own Mom’s Nite Out…cuz we both totally blog and stuff. But we already know each other, so we wouldn’t have to worry about our shoes. ;)

    But I second that I really wish I lived in San Diego.

  17. Me says:

    Totally jealous your in San Diego.

  18. Jamie says:

    First of all, I totally swear I didn’t come over here today (finally) just because I had some weird sense that a (non-deserving) link to me would exist…

    I swear, I came to catch up on homework and pretend I’ve totally read each and every thing that has ever leaked from your fingers. Um, wait…scratch that

    So…anyways. Love the idea. Hope to make it. Really, I do. Because for me? That night at Kate’s? Really was the beginning of the REAL fun in blogging.

    (Now, if you’ll excuse me. I am delinquent and out of excuses on your former posts.)

  19. Me says:

    you’re – because God forbid I let people think I didn’t know better.

  20. Myra says:

    If only I lived in San Diego…

  21. I see some familiar names among the comments here. US and UK bloggers are lucky, because you get to meet one another.

    Here in Australia, e are pretty isolated, geographically. I’ve only met (face-to-face) two bloggers, one of whom cam to Vancouver airport at 6am to meet me while I transitted through!

  22. if i were made of money, i’d fly out there to meet you guys…
    have a great time!

  23. ilinap says:

    I’m so not cool enough to hang with you. But I’m using the old “I live in North Carolina” excuse instead. Have fun, Claw.

  24. BOSSY says:

    Bossy is so honored you made the trip that night! And so pleased it all turned out this way. Bossy is a proud blog universe Mama.

Leave a Reply