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This Christmas

December 29th, 2011



It hasn’t been an easy year. In fact, it’s been a most uneasy year. I lost a major editing contract and have scraped and scratched for freelance jobs to fill the gap, and The Rock has never worked harder at bidding jobs that don’t come fast, or simple. This isn’t to say there haven’t been some opportunities come our way. I’m involved in some exciting projects, the likes of which thrill my creative brain, but the money hasn’t followed just yet, and it’s been tough while my fingers are crossed for an income (I’m sweet talking you, 2012). I also want to say that lest I seem ungrateful (tired, yes; ungrateful, not so), I’m so very thankful that each month, it somehow works out mostly pretty much, and jobs pop up right when I need them to pay for insurance or some such.




This is about Christmas and family and more gratitude and blessings.


Because it’s been a…difficult year, the holidays were a bit stressful, you know? I lucked out (again, blessings!) and won a few bloggy giveaways that helped (the Louboutins I scored? A major bonus. Those are for my feet when I land on my big writing gig) and took it a bit easier than years past and emphasized the meaning of Christmas rather than the material, but still. You know. With kids? That last part gets tricky.




I’m getting to the Christmas and family and gratitude and blessings.


This year, my siblings decided to rent a house where we could spend the holidays as a family; a holiday made richer by the fact that my dad cheated death in October and we all get the fragility of life and time spent together. Given that The Rock and I were largely unable to contribute in a “defray the costs of renting a house in Carmel” way, my brothers and sister told me to relax and enjoy Christmas without feeling the tension of fiscal suckiness. And by that, I mean, they gave us a Christmas of epic proportions without the stress of knowing you can’t afford it.


All this is to say we drove to Carmel last Friday and walked into a house filled with music and comfort food, a tree, and family. We spent the next few days alternating between “Hi! I love you!” and “Will you stop interrupting me!” and “I am NOT chunky!” and “Will SOMEONE CLEAN THE KITCHEN?” and most especially, “thank you, family, for a holiday beset with brothers and sisters and cousins and nephews and sisters-in-law and brothers-in-law, and a dad still around and generosity and knowing you’re there and escaping from spending money we don’t have just now.”


Thank you.



You made an uneasy year easier.


We’re surrounded by gratitude and blessings.


On December 29th, 2011, Mama Mary said:

I’m grateful for you, Deb, and our friendship. Here’s to a fruitful, productive, and love-filled 2012. Can’t wait to hear all about your trip. xoxoxo

On December 29th, 2011, Jen said:

Sounds like you had a fabulous holiday. :)

On December 29th, 2011, SurferWife said:

I love it. And I love your face.


As I was reading this, I had xm radio playing on the 80’s station and expose’s exposed to love is on.

80’s dance party at my place soon?

On December 29th, 2011, Ferd said:

Really great! Sounds like a truly wonderful Christmas! :-)

And sandiegomomma, here’s to a successful 2012!!

Save this for New Year’s Eve: XO.

On December 29th, 2011, Alexandra said:

I love Christmasses with less.

We do it small every year.

I will confess that I feel smug when I carry our after Xmas day trash out to the curb, and it consists of a garbage bag only 1/4 full with wrapping paper vs the neighborhood’s 5 bags busting out of the top and stacks of boxes besides.

Smug indeed.

Merry Christmas and a fruitful 2012 to you, kind lady.

On December 29th, 2011, gigi said:

What a wonderful Christmas indeed. It’s so nice when people extend their generosity so unexpectedly. I’m glad you had a wonderful time!

On December 29th, 2011, Susan (5 Minutes for Mom) said:

I’m happy to hear you had such a nice time with your family over Christmas. I hope 2012 brings you many blessings!

On December 30th, 2011, Middle State/MomZombie said:

As much as I grumble about family and the holidays, they really came through for us this year, too. Glad you had a nice Christmas. Here’s to a productive, prosperous 2012.

On December 30th, 2011, Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said:

So Deb. So wonderful.

Happy New Year, dear friend.

On December 30th, 2011, julie gardner said:

I’ve been shamelessly throwing myself at 2012 in an effort to win its support of actually seeing you face to face sometime in the next twelve months.

Unfortunately, I’ve lost a lot of my come-hither skill.

So we may have to rely on ourselves…

I’m so glad your Christmas was lovely (and yes, full of gratitude) and I hope your new year is full of blessings.
And me.


On December 30th, 2011, Jenn @ Juggling Life said:

Sounds like they definitely know what the Christmas spirit is about–I’m so happy you had such a wonderful holiday.

On January 1st, 2012, Aunt Snow (g) said:

Have a wonderful 2012, Deb! What a marvelous and rich looking collection of happy people!

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