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We Don’t Have THAT Much in Common

March 11th, 2010

Not too long ago, my brother sent me a link to Elizabeth Gilbert’s TED speech on creativity (which I’ve posted here several times) and told me, “This woman reminds me a bit of you, and I think you’ll probably enjoy it if you haven’t seen it.”


Well of course I was semi-flattered, because as the author of Eat, Pray, Love, Gilbert is successful and a writer — two things on my “to-do” list of life. But I don’t know, something about her has always bugged me a little. I could never put my finger on it exactly, but whatever it was tempered my enthusiasm for her. So while I enjoyed her TED speech, I still found myself not completely wooed.


THEN, my other brother, my dopey, lame OTHER brother (who had been cc:d on the above), sent me the below email.


“Good timing on this video – Both because I’ve been working on a project for a TED wish winner at work, and because I just read a review of Elizabeth Gilbert’s new book that had some great insights into this sort of personality.


Some highlights:

“It does not take a lot to get Gilbert worked up.”


“Keeping things in perspective is not Gilbert’s strong suit. This is why she goes on so many trips and does so much information gathering: she wants to understand how her fellow-humans have resolved the issues that torment her. The result is Gilbert’s new book, a journey through domestic history and her own neuroses.”


“Ultimately, Gilbert is clear about what she, like most people, wants: everything. Intimacy and autonomy, security and stimulation, reassurance and novelty, coziness and thrills.”


And my personal favorite, something every man can probably relate to:

“All this ambivalence, expressed in her high-drama prose, can be a lot to handle. (One generally doesn’t indulge another person’s emotional processing at this length unless the jabbering is likely to conclude with sex.)”


Right. NOW I get it.


Also, the email from my brother(s)?

Was titled, “Deb’s Alter Ego.”


Sometimes it takes those closest to you to really show you yourself.


Those little fuckers.


On March 11th, 2010, Stefanie said:

I know some people. You know. “People.”

On March 11th, 2010, Mich said:

I am so laughing my ass off. ;)

On March 11th, 2010, JenniferfromLaJolla said:

Glad my brother only reads Nick Hornby.

On March 11th, 2010, Danielle said:

HAA. I love the last line. Love it.

On March 11th, 2010, Mama Mary said:

I want all those things on that list too.

And, I love it when you curse.

On March 11th, 2010, we_be_toys said:

Brothers – ’nuff said! I have two of the little peckers myself, and they sound about the same. Are my two boys doomed?!

On March 12th, 2010, Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said:

I’m smiling so hard I might need to get a shot of something between my eyes at the dermatologist’s office.

On March 12th, 2010, green girl in Wisconsin said:

This was pretty damn funny. Thanks! And I totally have shared BOTH of those opinions.

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