I find myself in a bit of a transformation. I say “a bit,” because I tend to take to these things slowly, instead of speeding full throttle into change. Still, I can’t deny that certain situations and people have been put in my life at a time when I am ready to be different, and while it is good — I know this — it’s unsettling too.
You may ask how I know I’m undergoing a fundamental shift, and I can tell you it’s how you know you are cold or hungry or breathing. It’s biological almost, some budding kernel living in the core of yourself, and you’re aware it’s there, but unsure how it took root.
But it’s happening — right now — and I’m grateful for it.
Are you in the midst of a transformation?
Here’s how you might know:
1. Are certain people in your life no longer working for you?
Who surrounds you? Supportive, loving, constructive people? Or passive aggressive sorts? Gossipers? Status-seekers? Maybe you just don’t feel “right” with your old group anymore. If you’re starting to see that you’re not feeling soul synergies with those you spend the most time with, you might be ready to move on and allow more positive people in your life. If you begin to consciously choose to not spend as much time with people who don’t mirror your best self, you could be transforming.
2. You find yourself meeting different kinds of people than usual.
This past year, some people have entered my life who I knew right off were there to teach me something, make me better, challenge me to rise up. These people are interested in achieving great things, unfettered by thoughts of insecurity and “can’t.” As a result, I’m realizing what I am capable of achieving, and believing I can. If you find yourself shedding old belief systems and labels, and meeting more people who don’t buy into either, you could be smack dab in the middle of a soul paradigm shift.
3. You’re making different decisions.
This could be saying yes more, saying no more, not saying anything at all. Maybe where you once were loud, you’re now quiet. Maybe you’re speaking up where your silence used to rule. Whatever it is, you are willing to buck old habits and thought processes.
4. You’re more open than usual.
Open-minded, open-hearted, open-ended. You understand you don’t have all the answers, but you let them come. You relax into the not knowing.
5. Things that used to matter to you don’t anymore.
First and foremost? What other people think. You proceed knowing you need to be right with you. You learn the difference between opinion and judgment. You consult your higher self. You know you know. You trust what you know.
6. You’re scared.
Yes, you are. But what scares you more is staying the same.
Meanwhile, I’d like to publicly call out someone who has been a good friend to me over the years. Someone I’ve never met, but who teaches me with every comment he leaves and message he sends. His positive attitude, openness, and support mean a lot to me, but I don’t think I’ve ever told him so. Most wonderfully of all, he has been willing to share some of how he underwent his own transformation, which gives me the courage to continue with mine. Thanks, Ferd.